We live in a society ruled by fear, ruled by the outdated understanding that life happens to us and we have got no control over that. We have been conditioned into thinking that neither one of us matters and we cannot make ripples, big enough, to change the environment and basically whatever we do it just DOESN'T MATTER.
Well I am here to tell you that each and every one of us has got a value and can make a difference in this world. But what I want to write about today is undervaluing ourselves.
Growing up with parents and environment, who keep telling us that we are not enough and we have to reach perfection in every aspect in our life in order to achieve happiness and fulfilment is really hard. Just check your social media feed and see how everyone is so happy and you are sitting there miserable, because there are another 5lbs to lose or you cannot afford to pay for a nose job or a boob job or you want that six pack but you prefer cake.
I don't know about you, but I have been taught that celebrating my achievements is being extremely selfish and because I still have lots of flaws, that I have to work on and this is what I have to concentrate on. So the bottom line here is that living only paying attention to our flaws and without seeing how much we have actually achieved, makes us feel well unworthy and undeserving.
When we feel unworthy and undeserving we seek worthiness outside of ourselves. We seek someone to defend us instead of finding our own strength. We hope our hard work will be noticed and rewarded by others but we are scared to point it out. We go and shop endlessly for designer clothes, makeup, perfumes and so on, so we can show others how much we are deserving of their respect and acknowledgement.
When we feel unworthy and undeserving we settle with a circle of people who brings us down. Even in our romantic relationships we pick partners who will use us for their own gratification or abuse us because our achievements are "better" than theirs.
Do you really want to be surrounded by people who work, consciously or unconsciously for your detriment? This can be amended but it will not happen until you realise the value you bring to the table and set strong boundaries.
Yes it can feel like a really hard work in the beginning because we are afraid to hurt someones feelings, but we prefer to ignore everytime when our feeling have been hurt. We prefer to stay and do what is comfortable for us, even if it is killing us slowly inside, because this is what we know and there is noone around us to guide us through the process of internal change and to hold our hand through the dark until we see the light.
The truth is that we are worthy and we are deserving simply because we are a constant work in progress and every little achievement makes us permanently better. And I am here to help you exactly with that: to guide you, to hold your hand and to give you the tools to achieve the life you have been dreaming of.